ahalpert
Major Contributor
I know I'm going to regret wading into this...
I dont think anyone takes issue with the fact that you make jokes. My guess is (some) people are more bugged by the nature of some of those jokes and by your occasionally combative spirit.
Not everyone will be bothered by any of that. Some may enjoy it. But if you keep it up, you'll continue to tick the same people off.
Speaking for myself, I am offended by the repetitive jokes that objectify women. Now and then may be a lark, but seizing every opportunity might reflect a worldview. In particular, you made a crack about hiring a Black woman and then eventually marrying her. I'd be glad to explain why I found it offensive in context but I'll assume that you don't care or wouldn't believe my explanation.
Secondly, you sometimes get defensive and sort of list off your credentials, as you did responding to JP. Probably no one cares. I enjoy a good debate and combat of ideas even when blood gets drawn, but a competition of career stature just seems distasteful. Maybe you feel put upon and hounded, so I think it's forgivable. But I really doubt anyone cares.
And the whole objection to diversity hiring seems a bit greedy for white guys like us. Yes, we've all worked hard and overcome obstacles to get where we are. But imagine doing all that work and still not getting here.
I've probably annoyed everyone on this site at one time or another. NorBro thinks I'm a negative Nancy and I try to assure him that I would never tear apart someone's work to their face. Mutual support and constructive criticism is the name of the game.
You'll continue to offend or humor the same people if you stay the course. You can decide how much you care and if our criticisms have merit.
I dont think anyone takes issue with the fact that you make jokes. My guess is (some) people are more bugged by the nature of some of those jokes and by your occasionally combative spirit.
Not everyone will be bothered by any of that. Some may enjoy it. But if you keep it up, you'll continue to tick the same people off.
Speaking for myself, I am offended by the repetitive jokes that objectify women. Now and then may be a lark, but seizing every opportunity might reflect a worldview. In particular, you made a crack about hiring a Black woman and then eventually marrying her. I'd be glad to explain why I found it offensive in context but I'll assume that you don't care or wouldn't believe my explanation.
Secondly, you sometimes get defensive and sort of list off your credentials, as you did responding to JP. Probably no one cares. I enjoy a good debate and combat of ideas even when blood gets drawn, but a competition of career stature just seems distasteful. Maybe you feel put upon and hounded, so I think it's forgivable. But I really doubt anyone cares.
And the whole objection to diversity hiring seems a bit greedy for white guys like us. Yes, we've all worked hard and overcome obstacles to get where we are. But imagine doing all that work and still not getting here.
I've probably annoyed everyone on this site at one time or another. NorBro thinks I'm a negative Nancy and I try to assure him that I would never tear apart someone's work to their face. Mutual support and constructive criticism is the name of the game.
You'll continue to offend or humor the same people if you stay the course. You can decide how much you care and if our criticisms have merit.
