Need some advice....

Charli said:
WOW - no wonder you guys sleep alone with your dvx cameras next to your bed.
Good Lord!

Okay, listen to ME, I'm a girl and I know exactly what you need to do. First,
when she talks to you, does she give you her full attention, or is she just being
polite and is really into talking to her friends instead? If you have her attention,
then you talk to her after class for a few weeks.

That's right, a few weeks. Make it two or three. FAMILIARITY makes a girl secure.
The more she talks to you, the more comfortable she feels around you. The
more willing she'll be to go out with you.

After a trying day at class, one in which you don't know what the Hades the
teach was saying, you ask her out for COFFEE. That's right. A coffee date
with no intentions of this going anywhere else.

Coffee means if she finds you boring she can escape quickly, as can you. It's
not an intimate surrounding and you can ask her to join you after class, after
the day is over, to TALK about homework, anything surrounding that particular
subject.

A coffee date initiated by you should happen only weekly UNLESS she suggest
you go out to a movie or some other place. Otherwise, after two or three
coffee dates, then you can move in and ask her out on a real date. By then
she won't be nervous and will really ENJOY herself.

One thing you guys don't know about girls is that most will be guarded UNTIL
they can trust you. Those girls that matter anyhow. Do you know what a girl
wants during a date? Conversation. Someone she can connect with.

So start with coffee and talk about that class. That's my advice.

Charli
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Sounds like some pretty sound advice.
 
coffee bit sounds good to me. I'd also say substitute coffee depending on your age range. If your 16 I wouldnt invite her for coffee as much as i'd try ice cream or a shake. I'm only saying this because I use to try the coffe line in high school and girls would lookat me and say, "what are you? thirty?!"
Your near where I live Ravinsedge, if you ever want a list of good coffee shops let me know.

2 of the best? Search for The Old Angle or Le Oui Oui cafe. Atmosphere is perfect.
 
Well, some advice, don't ask her to get coffee and end up getting just a water...

It sounds silly, but trust me, she'll think you're a fool and wonder why you asked to get coffee if you don't even drink it.
 
but thats a food, dosent give her that quick escape clause (not that she'd want to escape from you)... dont you like hot chocalate? Maybe a frapacinno or something?

Wait a second! Your in college?! It's all settled then, ask her to accompany you to a Girls Gone Wild event!!!
 
I don't drink coffee either, but I get hot chocolate (which girls LOVE by the way)
or hot cider or hot tea. I imagine you drink one of the three? Pizza is a date, don't
do that. Coffee house is best choice.
 
Cynic821 said:
Dude, just ask her.
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Exactly.

If you ask, you have a 50/50 chance she'll say "yes" (well, sort of, I mean there are only two answers, right, and one of those answers is yes).

Vs. if you don't ask her, in which case the result is the same as getting a "no".

So: if you ask, it's 50% "no".
If you don't ask, it's 100% "no".

So the odds are much more in your favor if you just ask! :thumbsup:
 
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[SIZE=+0]For starters, LISTEN TO CHARLIE...Not only is she a woman, but she is a woman who KNOWS what she is talking about. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=+0]The sad truth is, you could have the best vibe, best looks, best approach in the world but if shes just not into you, there is nothing you can do. So, when Charlie asked if she was giving you serious eye contact or if she was just being nice, you need to determine what was going on, and not get bent out of shape if she just wants friendship. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=+0]Now if there is hope...if she is considering you that way...again, Charlie is right on the money. Don't put her in a position to have to be out of her element. Make her feel comfortable...make her feel safe, make her laugh...be cool and natural....and take her somewhere that is low stress like coffee...[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=+0]Don't do the movie thing...2 hours of silence...not the way to go...dinner...played...and if she likes you...shes not going to eat much anyway...[/SIZE]
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"Now when you talk to her, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's pulling for. I want you to be the guy in the rated R movie who you're not sure if you like yet" - Trent "Swingers"

Truer words never spoken
 
bosindy said:
"Now when you talk to her, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's pulling for. I want you to be the guy in the rated R movie who you're not sure if you like yet" - Trent "Swingers"

Truer words never spoken
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hahaha! i was wondering when someone was going to pull that one out on me
 
rlm7189 said:
[SIZE=+0]Now if there is hope...if she is considering you that way...again, Charlie is right on the money. Don't put her in a position to have to be out of her element. Make her feel comfortable...make her feel safe, make her laugh...be cool and natural....and take her somewhere that is low stress like coffee...[/SIZE]
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Right on. Making her laugh mixed in with PAYING ATTENTION to what she says. Start conversation, break the ice, these are your jobs, but once she begins to talk PAY ATTENTION and youll be able to figure out her interests and make great conversation. Which, as Charli stated, is key.

oh, and go rent "Hitch".
I'll go tell the other Reapers that you'll be out of the office for a day or two.
 
GlimmerGhost said:
Right on. Making her laugh mixed in with PAYING ATTENTION to what she says. Start conversation, break the ice, these are your jobs, but once she begins to talk PAY ATTENTION and youll be able to figure out her interests and make great conversation. Which, as Charli stated, is key.

oh, and go rent "Hitch".
I'll go tell the other Reapers that you'll be out of the office for a day or two.
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i dont need to rent Hitch, i own it... i'm going to have to use a "sick day" to get out of Reaping for a few days.... that is when i get to the point where i'm ready to ask which should be in a couple of weeks
 
What Reapers union you with?
I'm with "Death & Taxes local 44109", I can ask the head Union Grim if he'll let me take on some more work to help you out... as of right now all i have is west cleveland. All the action is on the east side.
 
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