combatentropy
Veteran
I see, you didn't want to burn any bridges, because you might want his help again.
It's hard. It's hard to tell people No, especially if you felt like you were friends.
But you will be healthier and happier if you set boundaries. It sounds cold. But think of it this way:
By giving in, you are encouraging them to turn into bad humans.
By saying No, you are encouraging them to be better humans.
It is more important, even for his own happiness, that he become a better human, than that he complete his dream projects. Success is sometimes the worst thing that can happen to someone, in fact. I'm sure we can all think of stories, at least that we have heard secondhand. I'm not saying you will have control over his destiny. I'm just saying that, by encouraging responsibility and fairness, you are in a sense helping him --- probably more than by giving in.
It's hard. It's hard to tell people No, especially if you felt like you were friends.
But you will be healthier and happier if you set boundaries. It sounds cold. But think of it this way:
By giving in, you are encouraging them to turn into bad humans.
By saying No, you are encouraging them to be better humans.
It is more important, even for his own happiness, that he become a better human, than that he complete his dream projects. Success is sometimes the worst thing that can happen to someone, in fact. I'm sure we can all think of stories, at least that we have heard secondhand. I'm not saying you will have control over his destiny. I'm just saying that, by encouraging responsibility and fairness, you are in a sense helping him --- probably more than by giving in.