RIP dvxuser Matt Grunau.

This is his last post on Facebook:

"Life is Problems. Living is solving them......There are things we do which are sometimes beyond our control but also happen to be something we should be able to.....Always try to keep in mind how you actions and words will affect others. I so dearly wish I had."
 
Charli said:
This is his last post on Facebook:

"Life is Problems. Living is solving them......There are things we do which are sometimes beyond our control but also happen to be something we should be able to.....Always try to keep in mind how you actions and words will affect others. I so dearly wish I had."
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Wow.

That's a very powerful eye-opener.
 
This is one of the few times I wish I could turn off the DVXuser curse filter. "poo-poo" just doesn't do my emotions justice.

Good Bye Matt. Whatever else may have happened, you live on here.
 
MattinSTL said:
Alcohol is sneaky in the wrong/right hands... what makes it hard to conquer an alcohol problem is you're lucky if you can find a couple people to support you in the fight.
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It really is. Some people don't realize how badly it can take over persons life. For weekend drinkers who are smokers I've said that you guys try to quit smoking, with alcohol it's as hard or even harder to quit. And it's REALLY hard to quit any addiction if you're in bad position in your life, if you aren't happy with the way your life is going. It's as important to change your life so you are doing things that makes you happy as it is to quit the addiction. If you quit and you are still depressed because how the things are in your life, you will grab the bottle again. You can quit an addiction, but the addiction will always be there, waiting the moment you are at your weakest.

I'm happy that I'm the kind of person that will not drink anything if I'm planning to do anything even remotely releated to creativity, sports or things like that. I wan't to be 100% my self when I do those things, and even half bottle of beer will change that. That's why I'm anti medicine guy too. I'm smoker and weekend drinker though. And I most likely will never quit smoking 100%, because it is so hard and if I can keep my smoking like it's now and have been for past few years, I'm happy (I smoke only 1-2 per day).
 
I am still new here and did not know Matt, but having lost my Mother recently to cancer, reading this thread has me in tears. My deepest sympathy goes to his family and those of you that knew him and worked with him.

Sincerely,
Dale
 
Charli said:
I also don't think it's insensitive to know what happened. I think it's human nature and concern. To go into further detail, when Matty called me he was absolutely bawling out of control that he got kicked out of the house. In his words, "I deserve it." For a month or two I was able to talk to him about that frantic time in his life. He had no vehicle, borrowed his in-laws until they took that away from him. He was losing things left and right.

He got a job I believe at AT&T or some mobile phone at a kiosk in a mall. I knew that would not last because he was not sober. In order to see his kid he had to go to some AAA meetings but everything with him at that time was a desperate hour. Months passed and I didn't hear from him because I was going through my own little hell in having to leave Santa Monica to live in the desert.

I called him last year after I had settled to a degree and his phone was still working. I called several times, left messages, but he never called back. I suspect the worse before I suspect a natural occurrence. But then again, when you hear a friend cry like a baby several times on the phone, you can imagine the worse.

I too would like to know the details, but not sure where to get them from. His wife would have nothing to do with him, in-laws were upset with him, it was just a mess, mess, mess.

Matty was our friend who went through a tough time. Don't let your first drink of the morning be Bourbon. Don't have to start your job with two or three shots of some hard liquor. This was not a beer drinking guy. He was on the heavy stuff. Take note. What happened to him could happen to you.
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It's amazing something like a simple film forum can bring people so close.

We all know each other at least virtually, and some of us have met and partied and worked together. There are a few people on here that have been there for me when the **** hit the fan in my life. In light of this news about Matt, I want to say thank you to everyone on here for bringing this board something special. Like a family almost. :P
 
I also didn't know Matt but just simply, my thoughts are with his family.
It's touching to see the way so many DVXUsers have come together and shared what they know about an obviously top guy. Certainly makes me appreciate my friends all the more.
 
I'll never forget Matt. It just seems unfair what happened. It'll be impossible to browse this board without being reminded of him. And rightfully so.
 
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Damn. Just damn, so young.

Our paths never crossed, I didn't know Matt on the forum, other than the frogman, but I guess I just got to know him through this thread, and now I'm left wishing I had known him.

But folks, if you have a drinking problem, please get help- if Matt's death is a wakeup call for at least one person, then his death was not in vain.

We're left with this line from his obit:

Matthew lived, loved, laughed and now has left us. He will be missed by all who knew him.
 
aww that's too bad. That's such terrible news. What little I saw of Matt on these boards, he seemed like one heck of a guy. Rest in peace.
 
Charli just pm'd me and I had no idea about this. I'm devastated. I spoke with him some months ago when he called me completely out of the blue, and as nice as it was to hear from him, I could tell he was in a dark place.

Matt was a genuinely sweet guy. In the short time I got to know him (many skypes), he felt like a brother to me.

He really gave a damn.

We met on the forum when I approached him for some help on FX shots...and of course he was as giving and helpful as you could possibly imagine. In fact, 'giving' is the first word I would choose to describe Matt.

God bless you, Matt. I know you're in a better place.

Barlow
 
Wow, Just finding out about this. Matt was an awesome guy. He lived in the same city as I do and he and I would meet up and talk film and creativity. He called me when things started falling apart this year. I met with him and we prayed and sang classic rock songs. Tough year for Matt. I am sorry to say that this news was shocking but at the same time not surprising.

I sincerely wish his family the best.

The lyrics from the last tune Matt and I ever played together seems appropriate.

"And I saw my reflection on the snow covered hills until a landslide brought it down"

RIP my friend.
 
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