My company has already paid for the house sound...the feed to my camera is not a courtesy...it is a paid service just like the many wireless lavs and hand helds. It makes no sense at all for me to show up with a duplicate audio system and a sound engineer just to provide a feed to my C100 in the back of the ballroom. It's hard enough to mic GMs and VPs with one lav...I don't want to think about trying to get two on them.
Unless an AUX feed from the console was in some sort of contractual agreement, a live sound engineer assumes the house sound takes priority above all. Your sound engineer was likely doing exactly what he was hired to do.
Based on your description of the meters barely bumping during sound check, it sounds like Paul is dead-on regarding the house engineer suddenly pulling all AUX masters up when the show went live. You may occasionally find a live house engineer who understands the needs of a videographer and is willing to accommodate (having been on both sides, I tend to keep an eye on my press feed if I have one for a live show), but never assume.
The other part of this, though, is that you had mismatched signals. You were sent a line-level signal, yet had your camera set to mic-level input. That forced the FOH engineer to send a very, very low output during sound check (hence the console's meters barely even lighting the first segment). That's just asking for trouble. Set your camera to accept line-level in and allow the engineer to send you a properly-calibrated signal. That will take a lot of the risk out.
There are other safeguards you can take, especially in a conference/convention setting, and these are fail safes in case the board feed gets hosed. For one, you can plant a wireless lav on the podium. Or, if there's a wireless mic already on the podium and you have the same model of system, tune a second receiver to the same frequency and feed your other camera channel, or a backup recorder, with the signal. Good coverage on a situation like that requires several sources anyway: AUX mix from the console (if available), direct from the podium, plus a couple of room mics to catch crowd reax (laughter, applause, etc.). This also, of course, requires more than two record channels, so having an additional recorder (or a second camera) gives you the ability to record them all now and mix them together later as needed.