girlfriends ultimatum
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J.R. Hudson
Spirit Animal
Is she giving you a reason to spend more time with her other than complaining?
Sirius_Doggy
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My wife doesn't understand or see why I do what I do but we've been happily married now for close to 10 years...
Now the amount of time I spend here on DVXUser.com....that bothers her!:grin:
There's more to this then we've been told....or Jan is right.
Now the amount of time I spend here on DVXUser.com....that bothers her!:grin:
There's more to this then we've been told....or Jan is right.
J.R. Hudson
Spirit Animal
It's all about balance and this is me:
Daniel Skubal
Veteran
haha john, no wonder you've got 10,000 posts 
Wesley_Wong
Active member
seriously , if a woman is jealosy over a video camera and your passion for filmmaking, she's just plain wrong for you.
That's a 100, not a 100A . . . :laugh: :evil:
..i agree with the forementioned advice.
if your serious about wanting a real relationship, its built off understanding eachother.. or at least tolerating eachother. one person should not demand that the other change.. you dont get that right until your married
, and you shouldnt get married until you know you have the ability or desire to understand the other person, or tolerate them.
i dont know about you, but filmmaking is a big part of my life, ..its part of who i am, if my wife didnt understad that and gave me the same choice before we were married , i would simply have told her..
"you know, its not my choice to make.. this is who i am.. not who i choose to be or what i decide to do.. its what i was born like.. this is part of me.. you give me this ultimatum as if your the one who wants to be with me so badly. and yet.. this is who i am..
so the choice is yours.. do you want to be with me, or dont you.. i want to be with you for who you are.. right here.. right now.. not for what i think i can change you into.. and you need to ask yourself if the same is true for you.. if you want to spend more time with me than try to take an interst in what i do and who i am. and if you want to know me better try walking with me in my shoes a little and see how much youll learn about me. .. because relationships are not about changing people.. they are about loving them for who they are.
"
anyway .. you might get hurt if she leaves.. but better sooner than later. you shouldnt neglect her or your relationships for the sake of a camera, that would be stupid and nerd like. if your doing that then i dont feel bad if she leaves. but as john said its all about moderation and balance. if shes being upset cause your passionate about somthing and spend a moderate amount of time doing it.. it not cool. espescially if your not in school. id tell her that if you were in law school youd be away alot of time to study.. so she should appreciate our decision to study independently and give you the space and respect to do so.. at least the same amount of time that she would be fine with or respect fore you to study any other profession in a classroom setting. because education and your future are obviously important and if this is what you want to do with your life she shoud respect your dedication and hard work to make something of yourself. but man.. if your just toolin around with a camera.. ou need to get your priorities straight.
if your serious about wanting a real relationship, its built off understanding eachother.. or at least tolerating eachother. one person should not demand that the other change.. you dont get that right until your married
, and you shouldnt get married until you know you have the ability or desire to understand the other person, or tolerate them. i dont know about you, but filmmaking is a big part of my life, ..its part of who i am, if my wife didnt understad that and gave me the same choice before we were married , i would simply have told her..
"you know, its not my choice to make.. this is who i am.. not who i choose to be or what i decide to do.. its what i was born like.. this is part of me.. you give me this ultimatum as if your the one who wants to be with me so badly. and yet.. this is who i am..
so the choice is yours.. do you want to be with me, or dont you.. i want to be with you for who you are.. right here.. right now.. not for what i think i can change you into.. and you need to ask yourself if the same is true for you.. if you want to spend more time with me than try to take an interst in what i do and who i am. and if you want to know me better try walking with me in my shoes a little and see how much youll learn about me. .. because relationships are not about changing people.. they are about loving them for who they are.
"
anyway .. you might get hurt if she leaves.. but better sooner than later. you shouldnt neglect her or your relationships for the sake of a camera, that would be stupid and nerd like. if your doing that then i dont feel bad if she leaves. but as john said its all about moderation and balance. if shes being upset cause your passionate about somthing and spend a moderate amount of time doing it.. it not cool. espescially if your not in school. id tell her that if you were in law school youd be away alot of time to study.. so she should appreciate our decision to study independently and give you the space and respect to do so.. at least the same amount of time that she would be fine with or respect fore you to study any other profession in a classroom setting. because education and your future are obviously important and if this is what you want to do with your life she shoud respect your dedication and hard work to make something of yourself. but man.. if your just toolin around with a camera.. ou need to get your priorities straight.
letsburnbridges
Member
very well stated
reservoir said:
Then clearly I stand corrected. :shocked:
Neil, are you going to use that dialogue in a script? This whole topic could be a dvxuser contest movie.