Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
Soon after I moved to Canada, a black-eyed neighbor woman knocked on our door and ask to call the cops - the typical stuff, drunken boyfriend. She stayed at our place until they came. When they did (two guys and a woman), one of them was asking us on the side what we knew about it, if there were any drugs involved, and such. I said that I didn't know how I'd be able to tell if there were drugs. The police woman asked 'what are you doing in this neighborhood'?
Three weeks later, somebody was shot to death four houses down the street (unrelated case, though).
That was the day I did everything I could to move my family out of Windsor, Ontario (a.k.a. Detroit South).
To put it in other words - call the cops, and if you can, move away.
Soon after I moved to Canada, a black-eyed neighbor woman knocked on our door and ask to call the cops - the typical stuff, drunken boyfriend. She stayed at our place until they came. When they did (two guys and a woman), one of them was asking us on the side what we knew about it, if there were any drugs involved, and such. I said that I didn't know how I'd be able to tell if there were drugs. The police woman asked 'what are you doing in this neighborhood'?
Three weeks later, somebody was shot to death four houses down the street (unrelated case, though).
That was the day I did everything I could to move my family out of Windsor, Ontario (a.k.a. Detroit South).
To put it in other words - call the cops, and if you can, move away.
Bermudaforce
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
Well people who decide to beat up their girlfriends or wife seems to have very small balls. Come on a guy hitting a girl is not freaken cool. If my neighbor's boyfriend hits his girl, he's going to have about a mob of asian thugs after his sorry butt and I'll be right next door filming it with my DVX. Then I'll call the cops!
Well people who decide to beat up their girlfriends or wife seems to have very small balls. Come on a guy hitting a girl is not freaken cool. If my neighbor's boyfriend hits his girl, he's going to have about a mob of asian thugs after his sorry butt and I'll be right next door filming it with my DVX. Then I'll call the cops!
disjecta
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=Bermudaforce link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#3 date=01/12/05 at 21:00:09]Well people who decide to beat up their girlfriends or wife seems to have very small balls. Come on a guy hitting a girl is not freaken cool. If my neighbor's boyfriend hits his girl, he's going to have about a mob of asian thugs after his sorry butt and I'll be right next door filming it with my DVX. Then I'll call the cops! [/quote]
Hmmmmm.
[quote author=Bermudaforce link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#3 date=01/12/05 at 21:00:09]Well people who decide to beat up their girlfriends or wife seems to have very small balls. Come on a guy hitting a girl is not freaken cool. If my neighbor's boyfriend hits his girl, he's going to have about a mob of asian thugs after his sorry butt and I'll be right next door filming it with my DVX. Then I'll call the cops! [/quote]
Hmmmmm.
J.R. Hudson
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
Anyone who abuses women are insecure/controlling and typically alpha in nature. I'd call the cops before something worse happens. Make it anonymous. One time, this was happening with our neighbors for a period; few times over a couple months, (long time ago in mission valley by qualcomm stadium) and I went over and banged on the door:
Dude opens door
Me: You wanna keep it down, we're trying to sleep. (I said so in a 'I dare you to say something' tone
Never heard anything again.
Anyone who abuses women are insecure/controlling and typically alpha in nature. I'd call the cops before something worse happens. Make it anonymous. One time, this was happening with our neighbors for a period; few times over a couple months, (long time ago in mission valley by qualcomm stadium) and I went over and banged on the door:
Dude opens door
Me: You wanna keep it down, we're trying to sleep. (I said so in a 'I dare you to say something' tone
Never heard anything again.
Alexa
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=John Hudson link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#5 date=01/12/05 at 21:22:16]and I went over and banged on the door:[/quote]
myself and another female neighbor are actually also afraid he would do something to retailiate. something weird like break in and hang all her cats.
aside from him killing her, I am afraid he or she will go ballistic during a fight and drive his/her car into the side of the building where my computers and monitors are. (cameras are in Pelicans..phew)
either that or rip down the street and maul some kid on a tricycle.
[quote author=John Hudson link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#5 date=01/12/05 at 21:22:16]and I went over and banged on the door:[/quote]
myself and another female neighbor are actually also afraid he would do something to retailiate. something weird like break in and hang all her cats.
aside from him killing her, I am afraid he or she will go ballistic during a fight and drive his/her car into the side of the building where my computers and monitors are. (cameras are in Pelicans..phew)
either that or rip down the street and maul some kid on a tricycle.
Super Trooper
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=Pooh link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#6 date=01/12/05 at 21:29:58]
myself and another female neighbor are actually also afraid he would do something to retailiate. something weird like break in and hang all her cats.[/quote]
ahhhh, classic Peckinpah 8)
Seriously though, if it's pretty bad, you should definitely call the cops. I wish my neighbors would have made the call when I was growing up.
[quote author=Pooh link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#6 date=01/12/05 at 21:29:58]
myself and another female neighbor are actually also afraid he would do something to retailiate. something weird like break in and hang all her cats.[/quote]
ahhhh, classic Peckinpah 8)
Seriously though, if it's pretty bad, you should definitely call the cops. I wish my neighbors would have made the call when I was growing up.
J.R. Hudson
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=Super_Trooper link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#7 date=01/12/05 at 21:35:22]
ahhhh, classic Peckinpah 8)
[/quote]
LMAO
Serious though...
I feel you pooh; a combo of not wanting to get involved, possibly stressed about the consequences of pissing off the resident nut job...
Sigh....
Anonymous call; Im telling you.
[quote author=Super_Trooper link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#7 date=01/12/05 at 21:35:22]
ahhhh, classic Peckinpah 8)
[/quote]
LMAO
Serious though...
I feel you pooh; a combo of not wanting to get involved, possibly stressed about the consequences of pissing off the resident nut job...
Sigh....
Anonymous call; Im telling you.
J.R. Hudson
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
No big boyfriends? Or a few small ones? ;D
No big boyfriends? Or a few small ones? ;D
Alexa
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=Super_Trooper link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#7 date=01/12/05 at 21:35:22]
Seriously though, if it's pretty bad, you should definitely call the cops. [/quote]
We did a few months ago. And she filed a restraining order on him. He was back the next day. I couldn't figure out why she just didn't call the cops or kick his ass out..but I guess it is a lot more complex.
makes me want to puke when i think about it.
[quote author=Super_Trooper link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#7 date=01/12/05 at 21:35:22]
Seriously though, if it's pretty bad, you should definitely call the cops. [/quote]
We did a few months ago. And she filed a restraining order on him. He was back the next day. I couldn't figure out why she just didn't call the cops or kick his ass out..but I guess it is a lot more complex.
makes me want to puke when i think about it.
Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
By all means, report future incidents to the police. You might also want to recommend she seek some counseling for battered and abused women. She'll need a support system to get out of a violent relationship safely. Many areas also have "safe houses" where women and chidren can disappear to if things get out of hand. If she swears out a complaint, he'll be arrested and it would be common for a restraining order to be put in place.
By all means, report future incidents to the police. You might also want to recommend she seek some counseling for battered and abused women. She'll need a support system to get out of a violent relationship safely. Many areas also have "safe houses" where women and chidren can disappear to if things get out of hand. If she swears out a complaint, he'll be arrested and it would be common for a restraining order to be put in place.
pookie_old
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I'm sure I'll pick up flack for this, but here goes.
If you were a friend, you'd help......
not chat about it on a camera forum.......
I'm sure I'll pick up flack for this, but here goes.
If you were a friend, you'd help......
not chat about it on a camera forum.......
Alexa
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=John Hudson link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#9 date=01/12/05 at 21:50:24]No big boyfriends? Or a few small ones? ;D[/quote]
(1) 6'3 Canadian Polar Bear. but he is not always around.
Plus the shithead is a very stocky madman. He has some sort of vacuuming disorder and does laundry incessantly.
[quote author=Barry_S link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#11 date=01/12/05 at 21:57:28]You might also want to recommend she seek some counseling for battered and abused women. She'll need a support system to get out of a violent relationship safely. Many areas also have "safe houses" where women and chidren can disappear to if things get out of hand. If she swears out a complaint, he'll be arrested and it would be common for a restraining order to be put in place.[/quote]
We told her all of that, but it doesn't seem to get through.
I also don't have much faith that if they take him away, he will stay locked up.
[quote author=John Hudson link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#9 date=01/12/05 at 21:50:24]No big boyfriends? Or a few small ones? ;D[/quote]
(1) 6'3 Canadian Polar Bear. but he is not always around.
Plus the shithead is a very stocky madman. He has some sort of vacuuming disorder and does laundry incessantly.
[quote author=Barry_S link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#11 date=01/12/05 at 21:57:28]You might also want to recommend she seek some counseling for battered and abused women. She'll need a support system to get out of a violent relationship safely. Many areas also have "safe houses" where women and chidren can disappear to if things get out of hand. If she swears out a complaint, he'll be arrested and it would be common for a restraining order to be put in place.[/quote]
We told her all of that, but it doesn't seem to get through.
I also don't have much faith that if they take him away, he will stay locked up.
J.R. Hudson
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
To be fair; Pooh never said it was a friend Pookie. Hell I have tons of neighbors.
To be fair; Pooh never said it was a friend Pookie. Hell I have tons of neighbors.
Alexa
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=pookie link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#12 date=01/12/05 at 22:04:00]I'm sure I'll pick up flack for this, but here goes.
If you were a friend, you'd help......
not chat about it on a camera forum.......[/quote]
I am definitely not her friend and I really don't want to be. But at some point, you just can't sit there and listen to someone get the **** beat out of them. no matter who it is.
[quote author=pookie link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=0#12 date=01/12/05 at 22:04:00]I'm sure I'll pick up flack for this, but here goes.
If you were a friend, you'd help......
not chat about it on a camera forum.......[/quote]
I am definitely not her friend and I really don't want to be. But at some point, you just can't sit there and listen to someone get the **** beat out of them. no matter who it is.
dakotapod
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
Sorry you have hassles Pooh. J gave you the best advise here. Especially "recommend she seek some counseling"
Domestic violence unfortunately rarely has a pleasant outcome. If the first restraining order was ignored, others will likely be as well. the victim must want and work for a resolution.
Stay safe.
Sorry you have hassles Pooh. J gave you the best advise here. Especially "recommend she seek some counseling"
Domestic violence unfortunately rarely has a pleasant outcome. If the first restraining order was ignored, others will likely be as well. the victim must want and work for a resolution.
Stay safe.
pookie_old
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
No difference John.
To stand by and do nothing is just as bad.
What possible reason is there to say, it was a neighbour, not my problem.
No difference John.
To stand by and do nothing is just as bad.
What possible reason is there to say, it was a neighbour, not my problem.
J.R. Hudson
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=pookie link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=15#17 date=01/12/05 at 22:10:32]No difference John.
To stand by and do nothing is just as bad.
What possible reason is there to say, it was a neighbour, not my problem.
[/quote]
I agree Pookie (just illustrating).
I am one of those do something about it type folks myself. I say DO IT, DO IT (Stiller style)
[quote author=pookie link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=15#17 date=01/12/05 at 22:10:32]No difference John.
To stand by and do nothing is just as bad.
What possible reason is there to say, it was a neighbour, not my problem.
[/quote]
I agree Pookie (just illustrating).
I am one of those do something about it type folks myself. I say DO IT, DO IT (Stiller style)
pookie_old
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Re: Wifebeaters - Girlfriend Bashers
[quote author=Pooh link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=15#15 date=01/12/05 at 22:06:23]
I am definitely not her friend and I really don't want to be. But at some point, you just can't sit there and listen to someone get the **** beat out of them. no matter who it is. [/quote]
Apparently you're talking here to justify your intentions of doing nothing to help someone needing help.
I hope you feel better, you have to live with yourself.
I have absolutely no respect for people like you.
btw, thanks John
[quote author=Pooh link=board=Offtopic;num=1105591342;start=15#15 date=01/12/05 at 22:06:23]
I am definitely not her friend and I really don't want to be. But at some point, you just can't sit there and listen to someone get the **** beat out of them. no matter who it is. [/quote]
Apparently you're talking here to justify your intentions of doing nothing to help someone needing help.
I hope you feel better, you have to live with yourself.
I have absolutely no respect for people like you.
btw, thanks John