Jordan Scott Price
Veteran
It would be very interesting to hear (or read) some theories of where it definitely works and where it definitely doesn't. I'll happily experiment with what I read here and bring back a screen grab or two from set.
Think of depth of field as audio to written word. If you could read your scene like a book, what images, transitions, colors, and textures come to mind as the words come off the page?
Depth of field affects all of these things, but it is not the chief instrument. It is in the service of communicating images. It should never work against the communication.
There is no book or manual on where shallow depth of field does or doesn't work because it's all art, it's all taste, and it's all subjective. The effectiveness of your images, however, can always be qualified by its strength in communication, not solely by its depth of field.
I think if you broaden your interpretation of a script when you put your director's hat on, Wilbur, you won't be worrying about what is an acceptable level of "shallow," but rather how well you are facilitating your objective. Depth of field is just one of many elements reliant on that objective, not the inverse.