Is it wrong?

Evan S

Evan S

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Is it wrong to be annoyed when I'm reading in silence and someone comes in eating doritos very loudly?
I mean... C'mon, so I said. "Can you please leave!" as an order. Yes it was rude, but is it also not rude to interrupt someone whilst their trying to relax and enjoy silence?

The person in question is my girlfriend!

ahaha.
 
Ahhhhh... The old two people so caught up in their own exisitence that they don't see things through the others eyes. Let's see now I am going to have to go with rude being based on intent. I don't think it was your girlfriends intent to disturb you when she walked in eating doritos was it disturbing yes.... but I don't think she was being rude. You on the other hand did what you did with intent so I have to say yes you were being rude. If you had taken the position that she didn't know she was disturbing you and pointed that out to her and she continued.... then she would have joined you on the rude squad
 
Evan S said:
Is it wrong to be annoyed when I'm reading in silence and someone comes in eating doritos very loudly?
I mean... C'mon, so I said. "Can you please leave!" as an order. Yes it was rude, but is it also not rude to interrupt someone whilst their trying to relax and enjoy silence?

The person in question is my girlfriend!

ahaha.
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it depends on how hot she is.
 
Obviously no one here has ever had a pet peeve.
I've been with her 4 years, and it's not really a big deal.

It was more silly than anything else. It's was so damn stupid to get worked up over, but I was trying to work on something. When I'm in the zone I'm irritable. :P

Also, I don't want to get married yet.
 
On some board somewhere is a post...so I was just walking into the room eating doritos, and my soon-to-be ex boyfriend gets in my face about it...
 
When you get married and have kids, you develop a skill to work straight through the most asinine and annoying distractions. I used to be like you, needed absolute quiet and concentration to do my writing, with elaborate rituals and movie soundtrack playlists with carefully chosen tracks and my chair placed just so near the window, all so I can get in the zone. Now I could write in the middle of a hurricane, and without needing those preconditions I find I get my done quicker and more efficiently. It used to take me 3-4 months to write a first draft. I wrote my last first draft in 7 days while my wife was at home out of work and my daughter was home for the summer...I guess my point is you should find a way to be in the zone no matter the surroundings, not only for the sake of your relationship, but for the sake of the work itself.
 
^ true. You can't afford to be subject to a particular mood, in order to work: mood's a thing for cattle, or making love, or playing the baliset. It's not for writing.
 
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Well, the man's mood counts, too...

...although since a man is usually in the mood on a more-or-less permanent basis, it's true that you can basically zero it out of your calculations...
 
I've been with the same person for five years, and there's no way I could get away with something like that. Not without a lot more time used to make up for it. I'm also used to dealing with potential distraction and being patient, though; I'm pretty sure she's been talking about something for the last 1,825 days.
 
It's okay to be annoyed when something like that happens. You can't really control your emotions. What you can control however, is your REACTION. A simple "Hey honey, I just need a little time to get through this thing I'm working on." is polite and usually effective.
 
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