Chris Messineo
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Many of us are addicted to filmmaking and DVXUser.com, how supportive is your Spouse or Significant Other of your passion?
How Supportive is Your Spouse/Partner?
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krestofre
Knight of the Holy Order
I asked my wife and she said to put 100%.
Just kidding!
Seriously though, she's great about it. Over the last year I've probably put $9,000 of our own money into my current project and she's all smiles. She only rolls her eyes when I say, "This is the last thing I need to get, I promise" because she knows there's always going to be something else on my list. :laugh:
Chris
Just kidding!
Seriously though, she's great about it. Over the last year I've probably put $9,000 of our own money into my current project and she's all smiles. She only rolls her eyes when I say, "This is the last thing I need to get, I promise" because she knows there's always going to be something else on my list. :laugh:
Chris
Jim Brennan
VHS Member Old Skool
My wife is amazing. I've had a ton of jobs (currently at home with the kids) but never a "career". I had approached her a few years ago and told her I wanted to try my hand at writing. She was pretty supportive. A year and a half ago, while driving back to CO after Thanksgiving with her brothers in MN, I asked her a question. I've been a musician most of my life, and my wife loves to hear me play. I hadn't pursued it seriously since leaving NYC, but I had been talking about getting back into the swing. I had composed some orchestral stuff, written some new songs, and had been practicing regularly. But the writing/filmmaking thing had been nagging at me. Spending a week with my wife's brother, Dave, didn't help since he wanted to make movies with me. So I asked her "Which of these things would you rather I pursue? Music, or writing and filmmaking?" She didn't miss a beat. "Make movies. They will be great." I didn't expect that answer. "Don't stop playing, but focus on the films."
Since then she helped me with a 30 minute short, did extensive pre-production on another (including going to casting session and production meetings) and we are working together on a documentary for late spring/early summer. She doesn't understand most of the jargon, doesn't know about cameras. cinematography or sound, but she's there every step of the way. All this while wrangling our 2 monkeys and working full time to put food on the table.
Some of you might be thinking that since she married a musician she would kind of expect that type of stuff to some degree. Not so. When we got married I pretty much hung up my guitar, and we started our own business. I kept telling her for 7 years that eventually I'd make enough money to get her to stay home full time with the kids. When I told her I just didn't have my heart in it, and I was going to begin writing instead, she was surprised and disappointed. After all, being home with the kids was always what she really wanted. But you know what she said?
"I want you to be happy"
Not much later, she bought me a DVX for our 10th wedding anniversary.
Since then she helped me with a 30 minute short, did extensive pre-production on another (including going to casting session and production meetings) and we are working together on a documentary for late spring/early summer. She doesn't understand most of the jargon, doesn't know about cameras. cinematography or sound, but she's there every step of the way. All this while wrangling our 2 monkeys and working full time to put food on the table.
Some of you might be thinking that since she married a musician she would kind of expect that type of stuff to some degree. Not so. When we got married I pretty much hung up my guitar, and we started our own business. I kept telling her for 7 years that eventually I'd make enough money to get her to stay home full time with the kids. When I told her I just didn't have my heart in it, and I was going to begin writing instead, she was surprised and disappointed. After all, being home with the kids was always what she really wanted. But you know what she said?
"I want you to be happy"
Not much later, she bought me a DVX for our 10th wedding anniversary.
thartley
Veteran
Well, since I am single, I voted on behalf of any of my family who pretends to care one way or the other. I'm pretty much in a world of my own with this stuff. Which, with my family, is both a comfort and extreme source of fear.
Comfort: I never have to deal with them telling me I should have done this or that differently.
Fear: I'm afraid I am not really blood related to these people. :undecided
I'm pretty much in a world of my own with this stuff. Which, with my family, is both a comfort and extreme source of fear. Comfort: I never have to deal with them telling me I should have done this or that differently.
Fear: I'm afraid I am not really blood related to these people. :undecided
Chris Messineo
Veteran
vjbrennan,
Your wife sounds like mine.
I am amazed sometimes how much my wife will tolerate because she knows it makes me happy.
There is nothing like having someone who loves you and your pursuit of your dreams.
Chris
Your wife sounds like mine.
I am amazed sometimes how much my wife will tolerate because she knows it makes me happy.
There is nothing like having someone who loves you and your pursuit of your dreams.
Chris
XCheck
Veteran
Add mine to the list. I am sure many people are cynical about guys making statements like 'thank my wife who has been there all the way', but it does happen. My wife is very much like Jim's; helping me out with projects, even getting into directing (which she is much better than me - she directed her first play when she was sixteen), and doing a lot of producing on MY documentary. I guess we just complement each other.CMessineo said:
HorseFilms
Look ma no hands
My girlfriend is a great screenwriter, so she's always pushing me to do more stuff. She'd like to quit her job just as much as I do.:beer:
Fortunately, my gf is very supportive and always wants to be involved. My ex-wife--*that's* another story. She wasn't the least bit supportive and had a fine time making things as difficult as possible. She basically drove me out of my position as one of the coordinators of the Washington D.C. International Film Festival. :angry:
For some insane reason, I used to find dark and moody attractive--but have since learned my lesson. :grin: From personal experience--if your partner doesn't support your passions--meaning spending a reasonable amount of time and money--then run in the other direction.
For some insane reason, I used to find dark and moody attractive--but have since learned my lesson. :grin: From personal experience--if your partner doesn't support your passions--meaning spending a reasonable amount of time and money--then run in the other direction.
Sherman
Well-known member
This is beginning to sound a bit like a support group.
Sooo,----
Since I decided to make my living at this in July my wife of 27 years has been supportive.
Does the books. Which has been really scarey from time to time.
So Barry,---if this doesn't work out I'll be running in the other direction alright,---with my lovely wife in pursuit!
She's my biggest cheerleader,---my inspiration.
Did I just say that?
Sooo,----
Since I decided to make my living at this in July my wife of 27 years has been supportive.
Does the books. Which has been really scarey from time to time.
So Barry,---if this doesn't work out I'll be running in the other direction alright,---with my lovely wife in pursuit!
She's my biggest cheerleader,---my inspiration.
Did I just say that?
Jim Brennan
VHS Member Old Skool
You did say it.
27 years, eh? Congrats on that.
27 years, eh? Congrats on that.
TC
Resident Agitator
Women are easy. If you need to spend the whole day editing just scowl a phrase like this: "Geez, can't I get just 5 minutes to myself? GOSH!?"
Then, when your done editing, walk down to the local florist and ask him you can have some of the roses that are a week old and he was going to throw out that night anyway.
Take them home to the lady. She swoons, you got all your work done. Everyone wins.
In the case of a woman needing to edit, replace flowers with a DVD.
(I kid, I kid.)
Then, when your done editing, walk down to the local florist and ask him you can have some of the roses that are a week old and he was going to throw out that night anyway.
Take them home to the lady. She swoons, you got all your work done. Everyone wins.
In the case of a woman needing to edit, replace flowers with a DVD.
(I kid, I kid.)
Jim Brennan
VHS Member Old Skool
You date much TC?
Moonwind
Well-known member
TC might just wind up on the "cutting room floor", huh? :>)
My spouse pretty much HAS to be supportive (and veesy-versy) since we are in this together! We met because we worked on the same project ... and we've been doing it ever since! And I must admit, he looks pretty darn good all dressed up in a DVRig with the 100a ... and nothing else! (And if he sees this - I'm the one who will have to make a trip to the florist ... or at least to the B&H website!)
My spouse pretty much HAS to be supportive (and veesy-versy) since we are in this together! We met because we worked on the same project ... and we've been doing it ever since! And I must admit, he looks pretty darn good all dressed up in a DVRig with the 100a ... and nothing else! (And if he sees this - I'm the one who will have to make a trip to the florist ... or at least to the B&H website!)
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I kind of got into the biz because my gf had decided she wanted to do stage acting and modeling. I didn't want to get roped into volunteering for theater stuff all the time, so I picked video as a techie hobby. And it consumed me.
She is 100% supportive, and wants to be in front of the camera as well as behind. Last year, she ground-scored an abandoned wheelchair and called me up at work saying, 'Hey I got you a camera dolly!' I saw what she meant when I got home, very cool!
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I kind of got into the biz because my gf had decided she wanted to do stage acting and modeling. I didn't want to get roped into volunteering for theater stuff all the time, so I picked video as a techie hobby. And it consumed me.
She is 100% supportive, and wants to be in front of the camera as well as behind. Last year, she ground-scored an abandoned wheelchair and called me up at work saying, 'Hey I got you a camera dolly!' I saw what she meant when I got home, very cool!
Jim Brennan
VHS Member Old Skool
Were you expecting to film sonething...interesting?