Moral dilemma...what would you do?

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sean90291

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What a strange and stomach churning decision?

At the risk of sounding like the perpetual accident waiting to happen (which I am), I was involved in the development of a project with a snake of a producer. The producer was asked by the network to attach someone "more experienced" to the project, and I was summarily squeezed out. It was a very frustrating--and yes common experience. Okay, so I'm pretty much over that. I've moved on and since proven myself in other ways, but ain't no big shot yet. So the "more experienced dude"--who was given the option by the network to keep me on the project or not--chose (surprise, surprise) not to. I mean, I guess what would any of us do except try to get rid of someone who created something when you've been given the option to take it for yourself.

Anyhow, so now I'm selected as an invited "new filmmaker" to an important film festival. And wouldn't you know the opening cocktail party is at this guy's house! I haven't seen him since he poured a beer in my lap. Okay, he accidentally knocked a beer in my lap as he seemed to get really drunk over the lunch we were having during which we were "interviewing" each other. I never heard from him again, except to hear that he was going to take the project forward without me. It got a bit ugly with lawyers and agents, because they actually had never even acquired the rights to the project. We finally settled. And I put it behind me.

Alas, now I have to decide whether to go to this cocktail party AT HIS HOUSE. I really don't want to. Am I a man or a mouse?
 
HELL YEAH YOU SHOULD GO!!!

for lack of a better expression, go balls out man. based on your side of things, you did no wrong. and now someone else invited you as a "new filmmaker" to a festival. not sure if that means you individually, or you as part of a group, but either way you got the invite. bring a wing man and enjoy the cocktail party. don't let some weenie push you around. let him feel like the idiot.

good luck!
 
I'd go and act like nothing happened and drink his booze and steal his women. Well ok I wouldnt steal his women... My wife gets all bent out of shape....

Just go and don't act like it was a big deal. Go re-introduce yourself and say hi. Business is business and things like this happen. Sounds like a good networking opportunity. You never know who you might meet there.
 
Heheh. You're very quickly changing my mind. I'm glad I posted this dilemma.

I should probably do exactly what you guys are sayin'. I really like the idea of drinking his booze and stealing his women (though I'll have to tell the girls I'm gay later).

I have been invited with a group of filmmakers. Not just me.

Good advice. Business is business. Though it will be a bit awkward. I'll have to have a stiff drink before I arrive.
 
Treat it as a business decision. If it would be good for you to go, then it helps not only you, but others involved in your projects.
 
This reminds me of the movie "Man About Town" with Ben Affleck. (It was playing on cable the other day).

To sum it up, if the guy didn't screw your wife, then don't worry about it. :beer:
 
At the very least it will be good practice for something you will probably do again, sometime over the course of your career.
 
it would be a shame if you showed up and accidentally spilled cocktail sauce all over his carpet.
 
ugafan said:
it would be a shame if you showed up and accidentally spilled cocktail sauce all over his carpet.
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Oh snap! Why didn't I think of that. Maybe I"ll get someone to film it on a camera phone and post it here: my accidental spilling of cocktail sauce on his gorgeous rug.

P.S. in case I'm actually scaring anyone, I won't actually do that. I'm too polite. It's half my problem. The other half being I'm too polite.
 
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It would be a shame if you accidentally hid a kilo of heroin in his kitchen and then accidentally called the police to report its presence...
 
Sad Max said:
It would be a shame if you accidentally hid a kilo of heroin in his kitchen and then accidentally called the police to report its presence...
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That's almost taking it too far... almost... so yeah, you should do it...

It would also be a shame if you accidentally set his couch on fire...
 
Wow you guys are rough. I was just going to drink all his alcohol... While you are it though put some dead fish in his curtain rods... Gets em every time!
 
:smiley_up:smiley_up:smiley_up WoW dude.

That one may be going in my sig!


metro2307 said:
Treat it as a business decision. If it would be good for you to go, then it helps not only you, but others involved in your projects.
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All joking aside, this seems like the right advice.
 
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